I appreciate the compliments, but there are a few reasons why that is SO not an option for me, at least not right now.
The main one is that I have a ridiculously low self-esteem when it comes to my body. I realize that it’s not necessary to take nudes, but I don’t even like looking at photos of myself when fully clothed. I’m definitely not where I want to be, and I’m not going to get there any time soon (trazodone, stress, and schooooool are all contributing to that).
The other reasons are way lower on the list, but they’re no less important to me.
It doesn’t matter how many compliments I get, or how many times I do affirmations or whatever – I’m mentally anorexic without the follow-through (i.e. I would never be able to starve myself on purpose, and I’m also too lazy to work out all the time). I can take the compliments graciously, even giddily – and there is no shortage of guys who think I’m attractive, beautiful, hot, or whatever. It just doesn’t sink in.
So yeah. Good luck convincing me. I’ve been this way since I was in middle school and grew boobs.
Also, do I really seem like a dude in writing, to all of you people who’ve never met me or seen me before? Because I’m not sure if that speaks to my ability to write ambiguously (you read what you want to read), or if I’m just, uh, manly.
As opposed to saying “OMG, totally, like, OMG OMG OMG” every three seconds?
You’re much better this way!
I never thought you “wrote like a dude”
I never got the impression you were a dude from your writing.
And yeah, you are pretty.
You write thoughtfully. Some young men haven’t yet seen reason in a woman, so they think you’re a dude.
Cute hair, by the way. A gf of mine from back in the 70′s had dark brown hair that she used to henna, and it came out looking like that. Very very…!
The folks who accuse you of writing masculinely are essentially accusing women of writing without your traits… intelligence and carefully considered logic.
What’s the line from “As Good as it Gets”? Something about Reason and Accountability?
That’s a shame. With your natural hair color, and your natural womanly cushyness, all you need to be a dead ringer for Agatha Heterodyne, Girl Genius, is a set of large round-lensed specs.
If you have an offer to be photographed by Oleg in any state, I would take it. Just do what he asks and trust the result.
You know, if you get the chance you should read Heinlein’s FRIDAY. The heroine is very clearly drop-dead gorgeous from other characters’ reactions to her, yet she herself doesn’t believe that she’s anything other than ugly. “Mirrors don’t lie.” Well, yeah, they do — when you’re applying ridiculous standards to the images therein.
And trust the compliments. Guys don’t generally lie about that sort of thing.
Think of it this way — will the you of ten years from now regret that you didn”t get pix of yourself, as you are now, by a master photographer? Betcha you would.
By the way, here’s wisdom: humans ALL have low self-esteem. It doesn’t go away with age. Some of us just learn to disregard what other people think, which is another thing entirely.
What is irony?
http://www.zazzle.com/dude_youre_being_very_un_dude_shirt-235229751694690432
The Chinaman is not the issue here.
GenderAnalyzer says this blog, although gender-neutral, is 55% likely to be written by a man.
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