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Weirdly emotional – goodbye, “wedding” rings.

I’m selling my wedding set, later this morning.

In preparation, and because I’d never had “professional” ring photos taken, I decided to do some, myself, earlier tonight, using my “good” camera and a crinkled camisole.

 

I wore this for a year and a half. Then I switched to a fake wedding set so that I wouldn’t lose it or ruin it while doing farm chores…because I wanted it to last as long as possible.

The side bands weren’t part of the original set, but were chosen and then adjusted to fit around the center ring.

I really did love the way they turned out. They matched, and were pretty, but were somehow able to not look gaudy on my (rather large) hand.

I hope that the couple that receives this set in the future has all of the luck (and much more) that I didn’t, and that their time together is as blissful as possible. These rings deserve to be worn by someone in love, who is loved.

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This is oddly cathartic, and oddly sad.  I’m glad the rings will no longer be in my possession, but I hate that they were mine, but never “mine.”  I hate that the rings I loved so much never fulfilled their purpose, and that I didn’t get to wear them forever, as I’d planned.  I suppose that’s what happens when you view marriage as a set of symbols and rules, rather than as a partnership (*cough*wasband*cough*).

Engagement and wedding rings have a weird place in my life, at this point.  Former boyfriends and good male friends keep telling me how wonderful I am, and how much they’ve always wanted to be with me, just before becoming engaged to someone else (no, seriously – I HAVE A LIST).  The two times I’ve been engaged, only one ended in marriage, and that marriage ended in divorce.

The ring has stopped being a simple of love, and has instead become a symbol of settling, and of broken promises.  I hate that.  I suppose when your only experiences with something have been repeatedly negative, though, you’re bound to get bitter.

I mean it, though, that I want this ring to have a happy future.  It’s a gorgeous set, and it deserves to be worn proudly, shown off shamelessly, and paraded around by a giggling woman completely sure of herself and her relationship, with a man who’s also completely sure of those things, and willing to fight to keep them safe and whole.

So long, symbols.  Be good in your next life.

5 comments to Weirdly emotional – goodbye, “wedding” rings.

  • When my wife and I separated (prior to our divorce 7 years later!) I gave her my ring and asked if she ever wanted to come back, to give it back to me. That was 18 years ago.
    We are still friends, in fact, I discovered before my most recent move that she lives 1/2 mile away.
    I suspect it’s not going to happen.

  • Joseph

    I wound up giving an engagement/wedding ring set to my oldest nephew, who was proposing to his girlfriend but being a Pvt. in the Army of course had no money for a ring. The ring set had been sent back to me by my ex-fiance, reason unknown. I knew I wouldn’t get anywhere near the money back that it had cost me, so I held onto it. They have been married 10 years now so I guess the ring didn’t have any bad luck on it…

    • The memories I have attached to that ring…blech. I might have kept it for my nephew (he’s 6) to give to him when he was 18 or whatever, but first, I was tired of worrying about where it was, and second, I was tired of seeing it and remembering what happened while I was married. I sent my ring back to my first fiancee (at the ripe old age of 19), because that’s what you do. A broken engagement is a broken contract, and the person who initiates the contract (usually the guy) gets the ring back.
      _
      I didn’t get nearly as much for the ring as was paid for it, but I didn’t pay, so I can’t really care. I do understand, though – my first wedding set was platinum, and I sincerely hope my ex was able to get a good amount from it, because otherwise…yeah. Heh. I got some money to pay car insurance and buy some groceries (including vitamins and medication I need), so I don’t feel bad about selling it so much as weird for it having to be sold, if that makes sense.

  • That’s true,there are many memories attached to a wedding ring. In our family grandmother’s wedding ring is gifted to the daughter in law as a wedding gift.